Our daily lives are so busy. There are only so many hours in the day, but there’s twice as much stuff, just waiting to fill it. If its not errands, it’s family, or friends wanting to catch up, or work or school, or creative projects you just can’t walk away from. Or humanitarian aid. So many things, vying for our attention, and the simple act of prioritizing can be daunting and an involved task in and of itself, one that can frequently get lost among the bustle.
What I’m trying to say is, it’s been a while. And I’m sorry. Life is a fickle mistress. And sometimes, I think I put so much pressure on myself to make what I write worthwhile reading that I put off writing entirely until I can ensure its worth. I go months without posting, because I don’t think what I have to say is important enough. Maybe I haven’t done enough research on the topic. Perhaps its all just personal rambling and I find that it has no place here.
Which is crazy, when you think about it, because this is my blog. Anything I have to say should have a place here.
This is a similar problem to writer’s block, I find, with the excuse of “I just don’t have any inspiration”. Ah, inspiration. That age-old frenemy that pops up as an excuse every time we need a reason to get out of writing like “washing our hair” used to be for Friday night dates. I have used the “lack of inspiration” excuse more times than I prefer to remember, and each time leaves me just a little bit ashamed.
The best advice I have gotten to date for this issue is sort of hard to hear, but something every writer needs to hear at some point: Just Ducking Do It. Work for it. Don’t want to write today? Too bad.
Andrea Heckler, of YouTube channel booksandbrew, is a writer who offered that piece of advice – among other great stuff. And really, as obvious as the advice is, we don’t really listen to it, do we?
Let’s take a poll. You know you have a blog post to write, but there are other things you could be doing, from visiting friends to having a snack. You don’t have any real inspiration for the post, but it needs to be written. What do you do?
You’d make that sandwich instead, wouldn’t you? It’s okay; so would we all.
Writing is, for the most part, an activity that is really only enforced by ourselves. There’s no boss looking over your shoulder waiting for a report to be done. There’s no teacher looking for homework. It’s you, sitting at a computer, writing on your own schedule in your own environment. If you’re lucky enough to work for a paper or a website that gives you deadlines, then you’ve definitely in the minority. Fiction writers especially, as I am only too aware. You don’t submit work to publishers until you’ve got something written, so to get to that step, you need to write. Something. Anything.
Well, maybe not anything.
Personally, I think I’m too hard on myself when I write. I get so defensive and protective of anything I’m writing – I can’t even be in the room if someone is reading aloud anything I’ve written. In high school, I won an award for a poem and had to wait in the hall until the teacher finished reading it to the class.
It’s similar with this site. Half the time, there are things I want to write, but in a desire to make this blog something “legitimate”, I tend to shy away from anything personal. And you know what? I’ve finally realized that’s wrong.
Legitimacy is something every writer struggles with, I think. Is this worthwhile? Will anyone even want to read it? But ultimately, we can’t worry about that. Just like with other art forms, the person we really need to be creating for is ourselves. Art for art’s sake, not for legitimacy. We need to love what we’re writing before we can ever expect anyone else to love it.
So on that note, I think things are going to be changing around here a bit. More personal stories, more exploration and interpretation, dispersed among the usual social commentary and researched bull. Hopefully this will encourage me to get more writing done – and I hope I can get other people on the “write for me” bandwagon.
When was the last time you wrote something “just for you”?
Oh my goodness, it’s been forever since I’ve updated. September was packed and it flew by! School started back up again, so did LARP season (videos are coming soon!), and The Husband and I celebrated our very first marital anniversary. I may be feeling a bit overwhelmed, but its all a good thing, I assure you all!
I’ll get back to a regular posting schedule soon, but until then, I’d like to plug a little shameless self-promotion here: with only a few months left of my massage program, I’ve started to get set up for a professional career. I’ve registered for student insurance and joined the Associated Bodywork and Massage Professionals organization (ABMP). I’ve also started setting up my website! It’s mostly complete, just tweaking a few things, but I’m really loving it.
I’ve got business cards all set, and I’m working on finishing up my student hours. I think the thing that terrifies me the most is studying for the boards. There is just so much to remember. The test is pretty daunting. There’s the possibility that I’ll be significantly absent in December and January, with holiday gifts and parties on top of studying for the test.
Aside from school and work, LARP season has been taking up a lot of time. It’s like a third job! But I could potentially be getting a break for the rest of fall, so we’ll see.
Personal projects are still in the works! A new LARP|reality should be up soon and I’ve been doing a lot of personal writing. I hope to get some of that up and going, too.
Hope everyone is well! I know this was more of a personal post than I usually write, but life has been crazy and sometimes it’s just good to vent.
Happy fall, ya’ll!
Hi all! I’ve have a proper post up in a few days, but I just wanted to draw attention to a new page added to the site: my curriculum vitae, or resume + portfolio, up there under the About tab. I’m looking for new writing opportunities and freelance work, so if you know of someone who’s looking, send them my link!
Also, the Collaborations page has been updated slightly; don’t forget, Dear Aradia is always looking for new content, too! If you have something you think our readers want to hear, submit your idea to me. There’s no obligation and you retain rights to your work, plus you get some free publicity back to your own corner of the web. It’s a win win!
So, since there’s no real update… what’s everyone been working on lately?